"I felt better knowing they operate their
own crematory. It gave me
the peace-of-mind I needed."
"I can't believe I waited so long
to pre-plan my services! Michele made
it so easy and she even came up with
a monthly payment plan to fit my budget."
"My fiancé was an avid rider.
Marie let us bring in his Harley for
the service and play his favorite Blues
music during the gathering."
"Mark took care of everything.
He called the church, ordered the flowers,
arranged for the music and even coordinated
the luncheon. It was a huge burden
off our shoulders."
"When Linda and Kris came to the
house to transfer my mom to the funeral home,
they knew we were not having a viewing so they
gave my sisters and I extra time to say good-bye.
I will always remember those last
few minutes with her."
"My father was spiritual, but not overly
religious. Their on-site chapel was the
perfect setting for the service, and the
in-house minister was wonderful.
It's as if he knew my Dad."
"Everyone was treated like family.
Their entire staff was so compassionate
and caring, especially Yssa who we spoke to
on the phone. Even the doorman and their
receptionist Vera knew our names and
made us feel at home."
"We told Roger we were very limited
on funds. He helped us plan a meaningful
service for our brother that we
"We had family coming from all
over for the service. It was nice that
they have three locations to choose from.
We were able to use the location that was
the most convenient for us."
"I like the fact that they have
served the community for over 100 years
and Buddy Phaneuf is the 4th generation
to take care of our family. We trust
the Phaneuf family with the most precious
people in our lives."
"We had never had to arrange a funeral
before. Bridget was so patient with us and
explained all of our choices. We had no idea
how many options were available to customize
and personalize a service. We decided on a
beautiful candlelight ceremony
to cerebrate Mom's life."
"None of our family was born
in this country. Phaneuf Funeral Homes
was very sensitive to our traditions and
"Mom wanted to honor my Dad's
military service. Not only did they make
all the arrangements with the Veteran's
cemetery and arrange for an honor guard,
Joanne got us benefits from the VA we did
not even know he was entitled to."
There are many reasons to choose cremation, but perhaps the most common reason is the flexibility it accords. Cremains can be kept for any amount of time, they can be buried or interred, or they can be scattered in a meaningful location. While many people opt for some version of the above-mentioned options, others are inclined to experiment with a more unique form of disposal. Here are some of the most interesting ways that cremains are scattered. Continue reading →
Although the gap between the two terms has slowly been closing, there is still a difference between funerals and memorials. Most notably, a funeral will have the body of the deceased present while a memorial service will not. While this is, in essence, the only major difference, over the years each tribute has developed its own distinct feel. When thinking what might be the more appropriate plan for you and your loved ones, take these factors into consideration. Continue reading →
Until recently, if you were looking into a “greener” burial, your options were extremely limited. Traditional burial techniques, including embalming and caskets, were required by law. However, in a time where the environment has become more of a concern to us all, green burials are becoming the ever more mainstream choice.
What is a Green Burial?
If you do a bit of research, you will find that there are certification procedures that can ensure a funeral is green, there are special cemeteries that will inter the body in a green fashion, and there are even special shrouds that will disintegrate any toxins in your body. While all of these are entirely viable options, a green burial, quite simply, means that you are deciding to return a body to the earth as naturally as possible; it may be in a bio-degradable casket, or a homemade shroud, or among soil and tree seeds. Continue reading →
Funerals are an extremely difficult time for the family of the deceased, however it can also be a stressful time for friends and acquaintances attending the services. You want to pay your respects, but you don’t want to be in any way offensive. You want to express sympathy, but don’t want to be a bother. You may decide that having these thoughts cross your mind is silly, but in fact it is probably something that many people consider. To take some of the pressure off, we have come with a list of Dos and Do Nots to which you can refer. Continue reading →
If your loved one passes away while away from home, the added stressors of getting the body home and making the necessary arrangements can feel insurmountable. What do you do? Whom do you call? What is the proper procedure to follow? As with everything in life, the more information you have ahead of time, the better prepared you will be to deal with this difficult matter efficiently.
Make Measured Decisions
If someone you love has passed away and you are out of your element, it is easy to fall into panic and do the first thing that feels “right.” However, always think through what you are about to do; consider even asking a friend or family member if your thinking is rational.
While most people would agree that selecting an urn for your loved one’s ashes is a delicate and thoughtful process, it is also true that in the end there is not that much difference in the appearance of the chosen product. The material and make might be slightly different, as is the price tag, but in essence an urn is an urn. But what if there was more to memorializing your loved one?
It is very common for families to memorialize their deceased loved one through unique methods; some people choose to scatter ashes in meaningful locations, others plant those ashes with seeds to then have a physical reminder of the one they have lost. But what if you want to keep those ashes close to family and friends? Now it is possible to have a unique memorialization even without parting with your loved one’s ashes.
While many of us may have attended a funeral, it is likely that not many of us have seen a photographer at such a service. Photographing a funeral, you may be asking, what would be the benefit of that? Why would you want to record a time of difficulty and heartbreak? Your initial reaction may be “why?” but give this some thought.
It may not be the traditional way, but maybe that is okay. Traditions evolve, just like we do. What was once taboo, is now commonplace – for better or for worse.
Burying a child is a nightmare that no parent should ever have to face. Unfortunately, however, parents do have to face this on a daily basis. While death is always something of a surprise, even when it is anticipated, it is never more heart-wrenching and shocking then when the deceased is an infant or a child. Most parents are simply not prepared for it; they never believed that instead of planning a celebration for their child they would be planning a funeral.
Here are three important things to remember if you are faced with this incredibly difficult and tragic task:
1. Take Your Time In every respect, do not let anyone rush you. This might mean postponing the funeral for a few days so that you are able to spend time with your child and find some semblance of closure. It might also mean taking as long as you need to plan a memorial service that is in keeping with your child’s short but meaningful life. And of course, take the time to grieve and connect with others who share your loss.
2. Consider a Service That Celebrates Instead of Mourns Some families have found it useful to hold non-traditional funerals and memorial services to honor their child’s life and vitality, in contrast to a standard funeral. For example, one mother describes her use of a Dr. Seuss quote as the theme for the service as well as asking everyone to dress in her child’s favorite color instead of black. Remembering your child in the bright light in which they were born and loved may be the healing balm you need on this difficult day.
3. Create Memories Your time with your baby was cut tragically short, but you still have the opportunity to create memories. Some families have found it useful to make and keep ceramic footprints or holding on to a lock of their child’s hair. However, there is no wrong way to memorialize your child—you may also consider planting a beautiful flower in their honor, or even simply creating a memory book with photos and mementos.
Losing a child is unbearable. Our hearts bleed for the parents that have had to experience this awful pain. The most important thing to remember when planning a child’s funeral is that this is your way to say goodbye, so do it exactly the way that you want. There are no rules to follow because how do you apply any kind of rules to something that transgresses the very nature of our existence?
Have you ever considered how your death affects the environment? In recent years the concern for a green burial has become ever-more present and ever-more possible for those interested. While several options already exist, Jae Rhim Lee has come up with perhaps the most intriguing alternative to a traditional burial: the infinity mushroom.
Over the past few years, Lee and her organization, Coeio, (which means “come together”) have been testing several strains of mushrooms in order to find spores that best aid in decomposition and the dissolution of human toxins. She has finally completed her work and the Infinity Burial Suit is ready to hit the market, with its very first adopter ready to try it out. Dennis White, a terminally ill man, has decided to try out this fascinating option and has reserved his own suit.
So how does it work? Well, it’s simple. You can purchase an Infinity Suit in the latter part of 2016, when it becomes available to the public. Even if you have no need for the Suit right away, you can purchase and store it for an unlimited amount of time. The mushrooms and microbes present on the suit work quickly and efficiently to get rid of the 219 toxins present in the human body and decompose—the result is a clean reintegration back into the Earth and another step into a more sustainable future. If necessary, Infinity Suits can be used in conjunction with biodegradable caskets or as a sole container. Pricing in at $999, this is one of the most affordable options currently available.
No need to worry about invasive species either, the mushrooms used in the suit are commonly found all over the world. When faced with dead organic material, they simply go to work doing what they do best. Even more than providing a more environmentally friendly burial option, these multi-tasking mushrooms also create a catalyst for new plant growth and soil enrichment.
At a time when environmental concerns are reaching a fever pitch, it is comforting to know that there are things we can all do, even in death, to contribute to a better Earth. When we take away the emotional response that we all inevitably have to death, we can see that death is just a part of an ongoing cycle. This cycle, also known as life, must be protected for future generations.
Having a plan is the first step to making a stressful situation a little easier. On Thursday, April 21 from 2 to 3:30 p.m., Phaneuf Funeral Homes and the Visiting Nurse Association of Manchester and Southern New Hampshire will jointly host a Hospice and Palliative Care Info Session. The event is free, and includes light refreshments and valuable information.
When faced with the prospect of prolonged illness or imminent death, most people are understandably full of worry and fear. It’s not just the idea of being sick that makes them uneasy; it’s the thought of spending weeks or even months in and out of the hospital, surrounded by doctors and strangers, away from the comfort of their own homes. That’s the reason so many turn to hospice or palliative care.